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"Defiant Child?" trumpets the half-page ad in my weekend newspaper's magazine section, offering help to change your kid's attitude and take back control of your family.

I had a defiant child once. I overheard her having a telephone conversation with her best friend. It went something like this: "When they say 'no', you should say 'why not?' When they tell you, you should say, 'that's not a good reason.'"

Many parents believe that the best way to teach children to be successful is to teach them to obey. Anything less than that is seen as a serious problem, and leads to taking steps to control such a "defiant child." The child gets angry and either escalates the fight or caves in to the control and the anger goes underground.

Other parents feel completely helpless in the face of a child's opposition. These parents are the ones who cave in after making only a half-hearted, ineffective stab at controlling their rebellious youngster. These kids keep pushing, secretly hoping for the relief of boundaries to keep them safe, while vehemently protesting any attempt to impose limits on their behavior.

I had been leaning in the over-control direction until I learned a better way. My daughter's anger had turned into sweetly agreeing to do whatever she was told to do and then doing absolutely nothing about keeping her agreement. And driving me crazy!

The important secret I learned was to teach her how to argue with me. The telephone conversation was her simply passing this information along to her friend (in a somewhat modified form). Fortunately, we all survived and she now has children of her own.

What too few parents realize is that all healthy school-age children are sometimes rebellious and oppositional - for a very important developmental reason. They need to learn to think for themselves in order to learn to take responsibility for themselves as they mature.

Believe it or not, arguing is the best method to learn thinking skills. No, not repeating the same "Why not?" "Because I said so!" scenario. You need to model explaining the reasons for your position and help your child explain the reasons why she or he wants a different outcome.

This can be a challenge for a mom or dad who avoids confrontation or negotiation because s/he has never had the opportunity to learn or practice this kind of argument. You can learn, though: just expand the directions my daughter was giving to her friend.

Instead of insisting that your child follow your rule without thinking about it, help him or her to understand why you think the rule is important. LISTEN to your child's counter-argument. Ask questions about it. Take time to talk about it. Imagine possible outcomes by asking "What if" questions.

Be willing to change your position if your child's argument is convincing, and if health and/or safety aren't at risk. And be willing to take a stand and insist that your child do it your way if you still feel strongly about it.

The process of having the argument is more important than the outcome.

Helping kids learn this skill before they reach adolescence increases the odds that they'll think about what their friends are pressuring them to do. When they practice thinking about the outcome of their choices now, they are better prepared to make healthy decisions for themselves later.

WEBSITE DETAILS


Subject: A collection of resources to help you succeed with digital products on eBay by creating multiple streams of income.







ABOUT ALEX JEFFREYS (CREATOR OF EASY PROFIT AUCTIONS)


Alex Jeffreys got started selling information products online by reading Jim Cockrum's ebook The Silent Sales Machine Hiding on eBay. At 23 he quit his full time job to become a full time Internet Marketer. Alex has also created a number of his own digital products.







ABOUT THE EASY PROFIT AUCTIONS WEBSITE


The Easy Profit Auctions system provides you with a number of resources to help you use eBay as a platform to create multiple streams of income. The website is split into the following sections, each of which I will explain in the paragraphs below:


- System!!


- Introduction!!


- Index!!


- Ebay!!


- Videos!!


- Bonuses!!


- Tools!!


- Audios!!


- Support!!


- Forum!!





The first section is "System" which funnily enough provides you with an overview of the Easy Profit Auctions system. In this section Alex explains 'Where to Start', 'The best way to set up your System' and 'What you will achieve once your system is in Place'. He then finishes this section with an article entitled '35 Different ways to build a Mailing List'. Overall, this section does contain some useful tips but it is mainly a summary of the rest of the website contents. However, the article '35 Different ways to build a Mailing List' is very informative and contains lots of useful ideas - some of which I already use and others which I plan to implement.





Next is the "Introduction" section. In this section Alex gives readers an insight into his background and how he got started online. He cites Jim Cockrum's The Silent Sales Machine Hiding on eBay as his main inspiration, a recommendation which I also back. He also explains that just because your business is 'virtual', it does not mean you don't have to put in the time or effort - another statement that I agree with. As this section is just an introduction, there isn't really any useable information, but Alex does state some home truths about online business which I myself agree with.





In the following section, Alex Jeffrey's moves on to explain his system in greater detail. First, Alex discusses why sell ebooks. You probably already know by now the benefits of selling ebooks, but if not then they are provided here. After this he discusses just how big the ebook business on eBay is, and provides screenshots to back up his estimates. Again, most people know the ebook business on eBay is huge and this section highlights just how large it really is.





After this Easy Profit Auctions goes on to explain "Why write your own Ebooks?" Alex first answers this question then goes on to explain; Private Label Rights, Viral E-Book Marketing, E-Books without Resell Rights, E-Books with Resell Rights. I found this section particularly informative. I agree with Alex that creating your own products is very important and the key to success online, and in this section Alex covers all the bases of ebook creation in a concise, easy to follow format. In particular Alex provides one great tip for ebook creation which I've never considered before. Overall, an excellent section.





Alex then goes on to discuss the tools you will need, breaking them down into sections. He first provides links to the tools you will need and then lists some more recommended tools. After this he explains some of the tools in greater detail. Some of the tools he discusses are Selling Manager Pro, Automated Digital Delivery Software, Pop 3 Email Accounts and your own website. Again this is another excellent section from Alex. He tells eBay ebook sellers why they need each of the tools and how they all work in conjunction to run and automate your eBay ebook business. As a fellow ebook seller I use many of the tools Alex discusses here and find them a must in terms of time and cost savings.





Next Alex discusses keeping track of traffic to your eBay auctions and affiliate marketing. After two extremely informative and detailed section, I found these sections rather basic. The section on keeping track of your traffic tells you how to do so but that's all. Likewise the section on affiliate marketing explains affiliate marketing in rather basic terms but that's all. However, to his credit Alex does provide links to two great affiliate marketing resource where you can do further research into the topic if you so wish. Overall, both sections are rather short and basic and don't contain much information.





After this Alex then goes on to discuss eBay related issues beginning with feedback. In this section Alex details his 'golden rules' of feedback and also provides some tips on how to build your feedback quickly. This section is quite detailed and informative. Although some of the information is quite logical, it is useful and the tips on building your feedback quickly are great.





Following this Alex moves on to discuss using HTML (Hyper Text Markup Languge) in your eBay auctions. In this section he makes the very valid point that if you learn the basics of HTML, then you will be able to give your auctions a professional look. Alex then provides a link to a great free HTML training resource. I myself use HTML in all my eBay auctions and agree with Alex that you do need to learn the basics in order to enhance the look of your eBay listings. Overall, Alex makes a good point in this section and provides readers with a great resources to learn HTML.





Next Alex moves on to "Auction Tips" where he explains in great detail how to approach your eBay listing. Alex goes into great detail stating; how to choose a title, how to become a PowerSeller fast, how to create a good sales page and much, much more. I was personally very impressed with this section of Easy Profit Auctions. It is very detailed and Alex pretty much covers all bases concerned with selling ebooks on eBay. In particular, Alex covers the construction of your sales page perfectly, providing tips on both the content and design, as well as telling you how to communicate effectively with your prospective customers. This is definitely one of the best sections of the Easy Profit Auctions website and I rate it as one very fine resource.





Alex then goes on to discuss using both "About Me Pages" and "eBay Shops". In the section on "About Me" pages Alex discusses how to use your own about me page creatively to generate traffic, and in the section on "eBay Shops" he discusses the benefits of getting your own shop. The creative about me page ideas are good, solid ideas, and I know that they work because I implement them myself. The benefits that Alex lists as factors to get your own eBay shop are also good reasons which should get you thinking about opening your own eBay shop. However, I feel Alex could have gone into greater detail explaining both these topics.





In the next section of Easy Profit Auctions, Alex provides customers with over 20 videos related to selling ebooks on eBay. The topics he covers in these videos include "Leave a feedback trail", "Brand your Ebooks", "Automate Ebay 100%", "Backend Selling on your Thankyou Page" and much more. To be honest I didn't have chance to watch all the videos but the one I did watch, "Automate Ebay 100%", was very detailed. In this video Alex dictates step-by-step instructions on how to set up all your eBay emails to be sent automatically and also how to use these emails to generate a little extra traffic. All in all a great video. If any of the other 20+ are half as good to go buy then this is a great resource from Easy Profit Auctions.





After this Alex also provides a collection of audio interviews with big Internet Marketing names including Mike Filsaime and Jason James. These are again valuable resources and I always feel it's nice to hear other people's success stories.





The final section of Easy Profit Auctions is "Bonuses" which gives customers access to further free resources. These free resources include; SmartDD (a digital delivery solution), lots of resellable ebooks, free courses and a collection of private label content. Alex also provides access to his tele-conferences in this section. Overall, it looks like a good collection of bonuses with plenty of content made available. I didn't have a chance to check it all out, but from my initial browse it looks like a great addition to the Easy Profit Auctions site.





On top of all the above sections, Alex Jeffreys also provides Easy Profit Auction customers with a forum. After a quick browse of the forum it looks like a friendly place and a good source of information. It's a nice addition to the membership site as it allows customers to come together and discuss the ideas they have learned, ask for help when needed, and integrate with like minded eBay ebook sellers.





In conclusion I found Easy Profit Auctions to be a very good resource for eBay ebook sellers, particularly for the price that Alex is charging. He covers a lot of information in his membership site and provides some great bonuses for customers. My main criticism is that I feel maybe Alex has taken on too much with this membership website which means not all topics are covered with the same level of detail. For example, the "Auction Tips" section contains an incredible amount of details, whereas the "About Me Page" and "eBay Shop" sections are considerably less detailed.





Overall, I would recommend Easy Profit Auctions to eBay ebook sellers who are relatively new to the game. Although there is information here which caters to the more experienced eBay ebook sellers, new sellers will gain more. To illustrate this point further I would say that I am a relatively experienced eBay ebook seller, who has done a good level of research into selling ebooks on eBay. I've also put my research into practice over a number of years. Because I have a good working knowledge of eBay, many of the ideas Alex discusses are not new to me. However, if I had come across this information two or three years ago then I would have benefited highly from lots of new ideas. I still did learn some new things but I feel ideas such as; using your about me page creatively, the benefits of having an eBay store, and using HTML in your auctions would benefit new eBay ebook sellers the most.







GOOD POINTS


- Alex makes a valid point in that you need to be creating your own ebooks, and provides multiple ideas to get you started on this trail.


- Alex provides a good, comprehensive list of tools that will aid eBay ebook sellers.


- The HTML resource Alex provides is great for those who need to add some sparkle to their eBay auctions.


- The "Auction Tips" section is one of the best sources I have read on creating an eBay listing to sell ebooks.


- Alex provides a multitude of great resources including videos, ebooks, software and courses which are probably worth the price of membership alone.


-The forum is a nice addition which adds a personal touch to Easy Profit Auctions.







BAD POINTS


- Some sections are lacking information including the "About Me Pages" and "eBay Shop" sections.


- Some sections do seem like they have been added as filler content, for example the section on keeping track of traffic to your eBay auctions.


- For some of the resources you have to provide your email address to gain access.







HOW I HAVE GAINED FROM EASY PROFIT AUCTIONS


As I said in the review, although there is a lot of great information in Easy Profit Auctions, I am already implementing a lot of them. However, I did learn a few things including some valuable ebook creation tips and some list building tips I had never considered before.

When it comes to the sale of ebooks there are arguments indicating the purchase of ebooks may see a lower conversion rate than other retail products. The conversion rate for ebooks is equivalent to one ebook purchase for every 200 visitors.

The argument seems to be that the sale of ebooks may be a waste of time in an online business environment. I would argue that the sale of ebooks in an online store might be more of the equivalent of found money than a poor business decision.

The reason this is true follows a rather simple form of logic; you simply make a title or series of titles available with an online shopping cart and password protected download form, add a little long and short term marketing strategies and, if it were a stew, you just let it simmer. It can be a tasty combination.

Unlike most online stores the sale of ebooks does not require the time intensive and expensive product fulfillment and shipping department within your business. With most products you have to package and ship a product, you have to manage ordering duties and follow through.

With an ebook sale you simply rely on a data download that is managed instantaneously. Since this is true, the online sale of ebooks may not need a high conversion rate to remain a popular and profitable online business choice.

The amount of time you can invest in other endeavors can more than make up for a lower conversion rate.

The truth is many online businesses utilize ebook sales as a form of affiliate revenue. Many business owners report positive gains in ebook sales and the end result require even less involvement than standard affiliate programs. Why? Because you, as the business owner, can purchase and resell ebook titles for a complete in-house business that can provide substantial residual income and it doesn't require working with a separate affiliate funding source.

When it comes to successful titles the truth is ebooks are specifically geared to caterer to niche markets in most cases. What this means for you is the potential to market your site to a very specific niche of online visitors. If you chose a niche ebook, you could potentially develop and market your website with highly specific keywords that can make your website very attractive to a motivated group of online visitors.

All arguments aside, the truth is ebooks ARE selling and their popularity continues to grow. The portability of ebooks makes this a business opportunity that will continue to find motivated buyers.

An impressive audio book library is easy to build with the technology of the internet. You can find almost any book you want in audio format for a bargain price or, in some cases, even free. This is ideal for those living on a budget but still need an exciting or educational book to listen to during long car trips. You can get your favorite book in a convenient MP3 format from a website or order it straight from the company on a CD or cassette tape. Either way, you can easily build an audio book library filled with a variety of books from different genres.

You can fill your audio book library with books from a variety of categories and genres. Many people have an audio library full of Christian books that they can listen to for motivation and inspiration in their daily lives. The Christian book selection is wide, including several different translations of the Holy Bible and the recently popular Left Behind novel series. Others will enjoy books that focus on areas of Christian education or narrations of popular biblical stories to add to their enjoyment of their faith. Other genres in audio format include business selections and classic works of fiction.

Parents will appreciate the large selection of audio books children will enjoy. You can find just about any children's book in audio format that they can listen to on long car rides or instead of watching television. Your children can listen to a number of fairy tales or fun filled books as well as stories that educate and teach important life lessons. Imagine your children's excitement as they listen to The Chronicles of Narnia using their imagination rather than watching it on the television screen. Other exciting stories take on a new imaginative quality when enjoyed through audio books. Children are sure to develop a more vivid imagination when parents expose them to this audio form of entertainment.

You can compose your audio book library of compact discs or cassettes. Or, if you would rather, you can save hundreds of books to your hard drive or portable media player device. Even if you have it on your computer, you can transfer it to a hard copy so you can take it with you or have a backup of your files saved onto CDs. Audio books of all formats are quickly gaining more popularity because of the growing lack of interest in today's music and radio talk shows. The fact is that people would rather listen to the latest Stephen King novel rather than the newest Britney Spears song or the mundane political pundits that flood the airwaves.

The urge to build an impressive audio book library is becoming increasingly popular in today's busy world. The New York Public Library has joined in this craze by adding hundreds of books available in digital download formats for members and visitors to its website. You can check out any of the books in the audio book library by simply visiting its website, or you can go into the building if you live in the area. It appears that the audio book library industry is here to stay as an educational alternative to the other forms of media that have inundated our world.

When it comes to making some quick bucks, the best way to do would be by selling information on the net that too in the form of ebooks. It is fairly simple to do and earns you a lot of money. Suppose you write a 25-30 page recipe book and sell it at just $20 per book. So, if you are able to sell just 100 copies, you would be earning $2000 without much effort. There would be some advertisement and promotional costs but then also the returns are more than good considering the time taken to develop this ebook. You would take about a week to create such an ebook and the estimate of just 100 ebooks being sold is conservative to the tee.

Millions and millions of people surf the net everyday on the look out of information. This could be information about anything and the thing is they are willing to pay for this information. That is the market for you. You have to provide that information and make money out of it. It is true that most of the information is available on the internet for free but believe me finding information on net is not that easy as it might seem. Search something on your favorite search engine and see the result. It comes out with billions and billions of pages and there is no guarantee of the accuracy of the information provided.

It is the task of an ebook writer to gather relevant and correct information and distill it and then present it in a readable format and that is what he is paid for.